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By Tarra Bates-Duford, Ph. The process of death and dying can be very stressful for those that are dying, as well as the people that love them.
People struggling with their own demise often fear leaving behind unfinished business. Unfinished business can include fearing family members will not be able to locate important documents such as wills, repairing broken relationships, missed opportunities, leaving behind financial debt, etc.
Letting go of the life we have lived, the people we love, and the memories we hold, can be too much for some people to process and accept. The people that loved those faced with the challenges of death also struggle with processing and acceptance.
For many of us, death remains the ultimate unknown because no one in human history has survived it to tell us what happens after we take our last breath. It is human nature to want to understand and make sense of the world around us, but death can never be fully understood by anyone living.
Death is inevitable, everything that lives will eventually die. However, the loss of a family member or close friend will create a range of mixed and conflicted emotions.
One day we might desperately try to avoid the pain, anxiety and feelings of helplessness we feel when a loved one dies. Other days, we feel like life has returned to normal—at least until we realize that our life has changed irrevocably.
Grieving the loss of those that we love can help us move past the pain of loss. The intense pain of loss signals a deep connection has been severed. Unfortunately, pain must be confronted, acknowledged, and endured in order to move toward healing.
Processing and accepting the loss of a loved one does not mean forgetting about them, pretending they never existed, or minimizing the impact they have had and may still have on your life. Acceptance of death simply means the person that has died no longer has a physical presence in your life, yet their memory and influence lives on.
Initial reactions to the death of a loved one include grief. Grief can be experienced in several different ways that include but are not limited to, not treating the individual well, ignoring, letting down, or being accessible to the individual during his or her time of need.
Grief does not last just for a short period, some grief can be lengthy and debilitating. For some people grief is more than just a feeling or a temporary state. Grief has both individual and social aspects.
From an individual standpoint, grief is a sense of tangible loss. It can result in sadness, pain and depression. It creates a state of vulnerability and lack of resilience.The stages of grief are commonly referred to as the "5 stages of dying", as referred to in her book On Death and Dying.
This book is about these "5 stages of dying" and how their relation to the grieving process that different "stages" or periods of grieving are categorized. Death and Dying: 6 Stages of Grief Tarra Bates-Duford, Ph.D., MFT My name is Dr. Tarra Bates-Duford PhD, MFT, CRS, CMFSW, BCPC I have a PhD in forensic Psychology specializing in familial.
The doula is also available after the death to help the family in the initial stages of grief. Death doulas are becoming better known and more people are utilizing their services.
Psychologists are trained to help people better handle the fear, guilt or anxiety that can be associated with the death of a loved one.
If you need help dealing with your grief or managing a loss, consult with a psychologist or other licensed mental health professional. Kübler-Ross stressed the fact that her book was “not meant to be a textbook on how to manage dying patients”.
It was also not “intended as a complete study of the psychology of the dying”. First, On Death and Dying was never a study of grief and bereavement.
It was a discussion of some key emotional reactions to the experience of the dying. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross was a 20th century psychiatrist who pioneered the study of grief and developed a stage-based model that outlined the feelings dying people experience..